Most of this generation does not believe in the power or the advantage of two people working together to succeed. They live by such mantras as, “I am better by myself” or “I can do so much more, and be better off without you, all alone by myself.” Justin Timberlake – one of today’s iconic young actors, songwriter and teen idol – said this about being alone: “The best part about being alone is that you really don’t have to answer to anybody. You do what you want.” The late superstar Whitney Houston said, “I finally faced the fact that it isn’t a crime not having friends. Being alone means you have fewer problems.” It is my sincere belief that if Whitney had a real close friend, she might be alive today! It’s not that you cannot make it by yourself, but it is better to have at least one close friend and confidant with you on life’s journey.
Read what Solomon, who was considered one of the wisest men of his time, wrote about the power of two in the book of Ecclesiastes chapter 4, verses 9-12:
“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” (NIV)
I know and believe that I am a better man because I found my lifetime companion in the early years of my life; I am speaking about my wife. We have been through many difficult and distressing times, but always we have been there for each other. Now I don’t want you to think that we have this perfect utopia marriage. As a matter of fact, we still fuss, disagree and sometimes have sharp differences of opinions. Yet the one constant is this if I fall, she is there to pick me up. When I am feeling cold and alone, her smile and touch keep me going and warm. When I am under attack, she comes to my defense. Our power lies in our unity! Together we can overcome anything.
People become loners and believe they are better off without someone in their life when they have been deeply hurt. When you trust someone and that person violated your trust and was not there when you needed them, the tendency is to isolate oneself. Well, this is what I need you to hear, and hear me well, Get over it! Put it in your past! So called friends will hurt you and betray you; it’s part of life. However, you cannot allow hurt to keep you isolated and live life believing that you don’t need anyone.
Real friends are not people who become your friend for what they can get from you, or benefit from being your friend. True friends love because they just simply love you, and will be there for you even in your darkest moments.
Friendship is a stream that flows both ways. If you are in a relationship or friendship that only flows one way, it’s not a healthy relationship or friendship. That kind of friendship or relationship only lasts until what they are getting from you has run out and then they move on to the next victim. If you are in that type of friendship or relationship, it’s time to make some changes.
Remember, two are better than one when the stream flows both ways!